Writing Letters to Your Future Husband

We probably have all heard about this idea from one person or another. And we all thought it was really cool right?? I thought I came up with the idea until I found out I wasn’t the only one writing letters to my future husband! When I first thought about it I thought writing letters would be really cool and that way we could look back and tell each other how old we were then and answer our question we had then. I started writing innocent little letters not getting real deep into topics just talking about life in general. Two years later guess what? I talk about my relationship with the Lord, what is going on in my life spiritually, physically, and mentally! It is like my future hubby already is my best friend. You may ask, “Well what if you or I don’t get married?” Well I have also thought of that. You know if God plans on me having a single life I will learn to trust in Him and have peace in knowing it is His will. Those letters will be fun for me and God to look back over and see how I have grown in HIM!! I mean how cool is that? And let me tell you, I have grown, in the Lord! I have a new found relationship with Him! So lets just say that writing letters wasn’t a waste of time, even if no one ever reads them.

So why not start writing to your future husband? Here are some things you can include in your letters.

• The date- Don’t forget the date!! You will always want to look back and see what time period you were talking about.

• Tell him what you are doing with your life right then- Whether you’re still in high school and doing sports, church activity, or you are in college planning for your life.

• Let him know some of your hopes for your future-Are you wanting to be a doctor or a missionary? Tell him stuff like that. Later on you can see if you are living your dream or maybe you changed your mind.

• Be creative!!- Let it be a letter personally from you. He will love it later on. Don’t copy anyone’s style or their exact words! You can do it!

It doesn’t matter how old you are. Young or old. Let your letters focus on life. Don’t get too caught up in plans with him or your hopes and dreams. Guard your heart.

Last of all; do not get all goo goo and let marriage and your future husband be your idol for the rest of your life until you get married. That is not my goal here. It can be a problem. When you take your focus off God, life will go down heel from there. Stay focused on Him and he will let your future husband come into your life at the right time. Have fun in the meantime and enjoy single life!

Modesty- Who Are You Affecting??

Modesty is one of the biggest struggles for young christian girls. Modesty isn't about covering everything but your eyes, I do not think that that is how God meant we should dress. Do you struggle with it?? Do you feel like you never can find modest but stylish wear? My sisters and I always joke around about going (choir) robe shopping. Why not?? You are covered from head to toe. Haha You should be able to dress modestly but CUTE! Modesty isn't just about making sure all the certain parts are covered and if they are then your good. You are not showing anything right?? NOOO! That is not modesty. Always ask yourself:
1. Is this article of clothing too short? Or this shirt too revealing?
2. Is this form fitting? Can you see every curve of my body?
3.Will this cause a guy to look somewhere he shouldn't?
4.Will this cause another christian girl or woman to stumble in her walk with God?
And finally....
5. When I have a son, would I want my son looking at a girl dressed like this?

You know, women think men are so gross because of stuff they do or look at. Well girls, for a man it is a natural thing for them to want look. Weird huh? God made them differently than us for a reason. So they like or think different things than we do. . It is true. Some fall and have no restraint to look away, others will have the restraint sometime but it is hard for men. And WE as young women do not want to be a stumbling block for the boys.Think about your future husband: What if he was looking at a girl because she was dressed inappropriately. You are thinking, "How dare she?" She is making my man stumble and struggle. Well, guess what? Have you ever thought that you ALSO may be making someones future husband stumble as well? Next time think about it.



You know? If you question an outfit but you really love it, ASK DAD! He is a male and knows how men think. So if he says it is ok, then you are probably good. Occasionally you may still feel it is not modest enough. Most of the time he will tell you what he thinks and if you should change or not. But if he says no, I would heed to his advice. I always run to my parents room to ask my daddy what he thinks. Usually he will give me his opinion and let me decide. It also builds your relationship with your dad. Try it! ;)

We also don't just make men fall. We can have an influence on women too.  If someone looks up to you, (they don't have to be younger) they are going to question things. They may say"Well if she wears it, it must be ok". They may also think it is immodest and lose their respect for you.
So next time you put something on, think of everyone, not just yourself!!







Here are a few links to shops with modest dresses ect.: http://www.jenclothing.com/, http://sierrabrooke.com/, http://www.sweetsaltclothing.com/,  http://www.mikarose.com/

Not everything on these websites do I think is modest but most of them have cute and modest clothes.