Get Lost Book Study



 

Get Lost- Dannah Gresh

Hey young ladies! I have decided to do a book study using Dannah Gresh's Get Lost. It looks like a great book and I would love to lead you in this study so we can learn more together. If you are interested, shoot me a message and I will add you to the Facebook group. It will start September 21st at 7pm. We will all "meet" on Facebook at that time and discuss what we have learned and I will be going live on some nights, too. No matter where you live or what your doing, you can join in. So let me know soon. All you will need is a device so you can access Facebook and the book, Get Lost. We will have a fun time, so please join me!! :)

 



Synopsis

Have you ever ditched a friend for a guy? Filled your journal with more thoughts about guys than God? Found yourself jealous because that other girl gets all the dates? Maybe it’s time to get lost—in God. Discover how to get so lost in God that a guy has to seek Him to find you. Dannah Gresh traces God’s language of love through Scripture to help you pursue your heart’s deepest desires and seek love the way God designed it to be. Because once you identify your true longings and let God answer them, you’ll know just how to respond when romantic love comes along. With a guided ten-day Love Feast Challenge, Get Lost will help you see for yourself how getting lost in God opens the door to lifelong fulfillment.

 

Review

Praise for Get Lost“So many girls who are longing to be loved are looking in all the wrong places to be filled. Get Lost reaches into those searching hearts, pulls out deepest longings, and whispers brave truths about a feminine heart’s inherent search for love. Dannah Gresh tenderly reveals how to discover faith-filled contentment that will last a lifetime. Get Lost is a generational game changer!”
—Tracey Eyster, author of Be the Mom and founder of momlifetoday.com
“Confusing our desire for God’s love with a desire for a man’s love is easy to do. Dannah helps us understand God’s created design for this love craving, how we should respond, and what a true God-honoring relationship looks like. Her refreshing honesty and transparency reflect an authentic desire for Him. Dannah is wise and a worthy guide to follow.”
—Barbara Rainey, cofounder of FamilyLife Today
“For every girl who has been in relationship after relationship and lost herself somewhere along the way… For every girl who has lost hope that God’s best is really out there when it comes to love… For every girl who has lost something precious and found heartbreak, hurt, and disappointment… Get Lost is for you. So much more than a Christian how-to guide for love, this book will change the trajectory of your heart by moving you from boy crazy to God crazy. Every girl needs to grab a copy and get lost in the wise guidance and biblical love story Dannah weaves so well.”
—Erin Davis, author of the One Girl series
“This is not just another ‘find your man’ book for young women. In this compelling read, Dannah Gresh effectively shows young women how to be lost in God first, so that if God then calls them to relationship, they will be far more able to love their man well. Dannah, you are a treasure, and so is this book!”
—Shaunti Feldhahn, best-selling author of For Women Only and For Young Women Only
“With transparency, winsome imagery, and wisdom, Dannah Gresh tells it as it is. We want boys more than we want God, yet only when we focus on His love, His life, do we find the fulfillment we seek. I got lost in the pages, and I can’t wait to share this book with the young women in my life. Getting lost in God is a message worth proclaiming!”
—Tricia Goyer, best-selling author of Life Interrupted: The Scoop on Being a Young Mom
“I can’t wait to get this book in the hands of every young woman I know. Dannah not only points out the dead end of trusting in a guy for fulfillment; she practically shows you how tp make Jesus the One your heart adores.”
—Juli Slattery, psychologist, author, and cofounder of Authentic Intimacy
“This is one of those books that I learned from as I read but feel like I’ll return to and learn from over and over as the truths continue to digest into my soul. Dannah is easy to read and feels like a trusted friend.”
—Annie Downs, author of Perfectly Unique

About the Author

Dannah Gresh is the best-selling author of eighteen books, including And the Bride Wore White, Lies Young Women Believe (with Nancy Leigh DeMoss), and What Are You Waiting For? A popular speaker nationwide, Dannah has long been at the forefront of the movement to encourage tweens and teens to pursue purity. Dannah lives in State College, Pennsylvania, with her husband, Bob.

 

True Love



You will one day realize that the very relationship you longed for, you already had. You were loved deeply with an everlasting love, and your Prince was waiting with His arms open.

Marriage on earth is only a picture of the spiritual relationship that the Lord wants to have with every one of us. Anything we desire in marriage, we have completely in the Lord. We long for someone who loves us, understands us, listens to us, provides for us, protects us, cares for us --is crazy about us! God gives these desires. Don't you think the One who instills the desires knows how to fulfill them? In every one of these ways, the Lord is far more able to meet our needs than anyone on earth ever could.

An Earthly Picture
Here is a partial list of the ways that the marriage relationship parallels and pictures the relationship God designed for us to have with Christ:
 1. Both relationships are permanent .
 2. Both are intimate.
 3. Both require waiting - waiting for a wedding, waiting for Christ's return.
 4. Both are based on love and commitment.
 5. In both, the two become one - husband and wife become one flesh; those who are saved
     become members of Christ's body (Eph. 5:29-31, Jn. 17:21).
 6. Both are covenants and formed by vows.
     Marriage - "I do"
     Salvation- "If thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus" "(Rom. 10:9)
 7. Both are exclusive.
     They are not shared by another- no adultery, no idolatry.
 8. Both have a starting moment.
     When you are born into the world, you are neither married nor saved. Marriage requires a
     ceremony; salvation requires a decision.
 9. Both relationships make us complete.
10. Both have a wedding/marriage supper- a wedding banquet on earth, the marriage supper of the 
      lamb in heaven (Rev. 19)
11. Both are sealed with a sign-marriage with a ring, salvation with the Holy Spirit.
12. Both have an authority structure, a head to the relationship to whom the other desires to submit-
      the wife submits to her husband as the believer submits to Christ.
13. In both, even though there is an authority structure, the relationship is based on a friendship- "I
      have called you friends' (Jn. 15:15)
14. In both, the groom must leave his home. Christ left His Father in order to come to earth and win
      His bride. A man will leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife. (Eph. 5:31)
15. In both relationships, the head is the initiator.
16. Both require sacrificial love on the part of the head.
      A husband is commanded to love as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for it (Eph. 5:25).
17. In both, the head is the provider and the protector.
18. In both, the husband prepares a residence - a man provides a home on earth, Christ provides a   
      home in heaven.
19. In both relationships, the bride becomes beautiful by a submissive spirit and inner qualities of 
     godliness ( 1 Pet. 3:1-6).
20. In both, the bride's exclusive desire is to please and serve her head.
21. In both, the bride becomes radiant with joy.
22. Both relationships grow sweeter with time.
23. In both relationships, each owns the other. "I am my beloved's and my beloved is mine" (Song of
      Sol. 6:3. 1 Cor. 7:4).
24. In both relationships, each fills the other's heart (ps. 139:17-18, Col. 1:27).
25. Both relationships provide a "satisfaction" that can be found nowhere else. We are satisfied by a relationship with God and by being in His presence. Likewise, we are satisfied by our spouse, even just by being in their presence. *1

How to Fall in Love With Jesus
When you first meet a guy what do you want to do? Of course!

Get to Know Him-  When a couple are in love they want to learn as much as possible about the other. They love and want to share every part of their day with one another. They are suddenly interested in the other person's interests and want to be apart of every moment in each others life.

Seek the Lord. Get to know His interests and what He hates. Be interested in the things He tells you. He delights in your prayers and is concerned about the smallest details of your life.

Spend time with Him- When two people are in love they never want to be separated. They look for ways to be together. They sacrifice all interests and time with friends to spend time together. When we want to fall in love with Jesus its the same way. We need to spend time with Him daily ALONE, with no interruptions. We have to make an effort to spend time with Him.

Love Him and Tell Him So Daily- Everyone who is in love wants to hear the proclamation of love returned. Tell Him He is first place in your life and remind Him often of your love and desire to be loyal to Him. Yes, He already knows but He like to hear it anyways. Right ladies? We definitely understand that.

Demonstrate Your Love by Your Actions- When a lady is in love she wants to please the one in whom she delights. Her life is centered around ,making him successful. Her own ambitions are lost in her desire to serve him. If we truly love Him, we will obey His commandments. We will joyfully pour out our lives for His sake, and our deepest desire will be to bring Him glory.

Tell Others About His Greatness- A bride-to-be has trouble talking about anything else besides her fiancé. His name seems to come up in every conversation. After you've spent a little time with her, you feel that you've heard everything there is to hear about this amazing person whom she loves.
Well, we have a lot of exciting information to share about the One who has won our heart! Tell of the Lord's greatness. Declare what He has done for you. Remind others of Christ's credentials. Be excited when you talk of Him! Seek to turn focus of every conversation to the Lord. If others speak badly of Him, be quick to defend Him. "My mouth shall show forth Thy righteousness and Thy salvation all the day."  (Psalms 71:15)

 There are so many more ways! I suggest reading the book "Before You Meet Prince Charming "by Sarah Mally.

Delight in the Lord-
 Think of all you dreams for a future relationship. Small things, big things. For example: sending good morning or goodnight texts, receiving flowers, spending time together, sharing your dreams for the future, holding hands, etc.. These are just small little pleasures in a relationship but guess what? God wants to do all this with you right now. He wants you to greet Him with a good morning and a goodnight prayer, He sends you flowers of blessings every day, He wants to spend time with you every second of the day by talking to you throughout the day, He wants you to share your dreams with Him, and He holds your hand every second of every day. He never lets go, He holds on tighter as we go through struggles, gives us a squeeze when we need encouragement to go on. If you think like this: you will be blessed by a great relationship with the Lord. So quit pouting and saying you wish you were in a relationship, or had someone to lean on during the hard times, or to hold your hand, or someone to love. YOU DO! You have every bit of that and MORE right now. Christ is the ultimate Prince Charming. He is my true love. Is He yours?

Memory Verse:

"Delight thyself also in the Lord; and He shall give thee the desires of thine heart." Psalms 37:4





*1. Mally, Sarah. Before you meet Prince Charming: a guide to radiant purity. Cedar Rapids, IA: Tomorrows Forefathers, 2009. Print. chap. eleven.

Should Women Be the Ones to Pursue?

"Why not ask him out?" a lady asked me. I responded with a thoughtful look and said "well I don't believe its my place to be the one to seek him out and ask him. I think the guy should be the one to do it." She then looked at me like I was from Mars. "It's the 21st century.  Come on, girls do it all the time." I then said, "Well I'm not like other girls. I believe that God doesn't want ladies to be the pushy, flirty type and ask all the guys out that we run into. I  believe that God will let things happen in His timing and how He wants it to happen." Again she looked at me like I was crazy. She said "Come on, God isn't going to bring someone to your door and say "marry him"."


This was one account of MANY I had with her about guys. You will see what I think about what she said in the paragraphs below...

 I have been dwelling on this conversation lately and wanted to back myself with what GOD says about it. It is hard to decipher what God wants sometimes, but its really simple. He will show you. He will guide you. All we have to do is listen to Him. Simple right? Well who am I kidding. It can be hard at times, but we ourselves make it that way. We have to be in His word and talking to Him daily to hear from Him daily.

I have researched biblical incidents about relationships and this is what I have found.

1. Marriage was God's idea-

 Adam. He was the first man. He and Eve's relationship was the first human to human relationship. Adam was living alone, just he and the animals. He was doing what God told him to do. Genesis 2:15,19-20 says, "And the LORD God took the man, and put him into the garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it........And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; an brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: an whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof. And Adam gave names to all the cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him."
He talked to God daily. He was CONTENT and happy just living and doing what God told him to do. God decided that Adam shouldn't be alone so He made Adam a help meet.
Genesis 2:18- " And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him."
 Marriage was God's idea. God gave Adam Eve to be his wife.
Genesis 2:21-25-"And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the Adam,and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh thereof; And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. and they were both naked. the man and his wife, and were not ashamed."
Ladies and gents...... Adam woke up and found this woman and knew God wanted her to be his wife.
So to me...yeah it sounds like God DID bring Adam a wife to his doorstep. ;) But lets keep looking.

 2. Marriage models the kingdom of heaven-

Throughout scripture you see Jesus referring to the church as his bride.
Revelation 19:7-9 says, “Let us be glad and rejoice, and give honour to him: for the marriage of the Lamb is come, and his wife hath made herself ready. And to her was granted that she should be arrayed in fine linen, clean and white: for the fine linen is the righteousness of saints. And  he saith unto me, Write, Blessed are they which are called unto the marriage supper of the Lamb. And he saith unto  me, These are the true sayings of God. And I fell at his feet to worship him. And he said unto me, See thou do it not: I am thy fellowservant, and of thy brethren that have the testimony of Jesus: worship God: for the testimony of Jesus is the spirit of prophecy.”

Jesus is coming for his bride that we are preparing for him. In the same way, a woman prepares herself for her husband, and then he comes and he takes her as his wife. If it was the other way around, the bride would come for Jesus. The constant symbolic model of Jesus and his bride is a consistent reminder of the order found in scripture of a husband loving his wife as Christ loves the church, and the wife honoring the husband.
As Christians, what we are living for is that final marriage as described in Revelations. Jesus will take his bride, and that is the model that has been set up for us to follow as well.

3.  The man is supposed to lead- (Genesis 3:16)
 A husband is called to provide, protect, nurture, lead, instruct, and give vision to the family. When a woman pursues a man, she is taking on the role of the man to lead, provide, and even to protect.  Often times this emasculates the man, causing the roles to be switched, even in the marriage.
Ephesians 5:22-24- Wives, submit to your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church:and he is the Savior of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands.

As mentioned above, there is a biblical model on the order of a marriage. Men submit to God; women submit to their husbands; Christ submits to God. The submission that the Bible speaks about refers to the woman following the leading of her husband; this does not mean she does not have a voice. As a matter of fact,  a Godly husband empowers his wife to be who God called her too.
The wife should marry a man who she trusts to make good decisions, which in turn allows her to follow his leading.


Proverbs 18:22 says “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.”
To find is to look for something and then acquire it.

4. Every woman deserves to be pursued-

There is honor and dignity that is given to a woman when she is pursued and won over. You are worthy of the pursuit. When you read Song of Solomon, you see how he pursues the bride over and over. This book can be taken as a literal love story, or as an allegorical one of Christ’s love for the church—His bride. Either way, He pursues the bride. In the same manner Jesus pursues us daily with His love, calling us deeper into relationship with Him, we should want our marriages to model that. Allow yourself to be pursued to the end; and allow the man God has for you to win your affection and claim you as his.

So I believe we as women are called to wait for our future husbands to pursue us. Will you do your part? Love God, talk to God, read His word, be in a relationship with Him and He will send someone to you. Be patient and enjoy the moment that God has placed you in. Position yourselves to do your part and allow men to do their part.